He has been put on Seroquel (100 mg a day) along with Rivastigmine and AricepT. But the Seroquel does not ever knock him off to sleep as it is known to be. He wakes up frequently during the nights tampering around with the furniture and doors. He doesn't care whether anyone hears him or not, but screams in the middle of the night constantly abusing in his own filthy language.
My mother who is also suffering from heart ailment is put through this hell every single day. Its not that i wish that he dies for I am nobody to take away his life. But the quality of life he has now and the way it has affected my mom's life, I feel that's the limit. My mom doesn't want to put him in a care home right now as he is still fine with his bladders, except occasional bed wetting but not soiling yet.
But for the kind of care and love she thinks to give him , it puts me to shame thinking does she deserve to live through this everyday? Does she not deserve to live in a better way?
Of course I am not his care giver, but I can certainly relate to the pain and anguish she has withheld in herself, for a reason that she cannot let it come out before him.
I think I don't want my mom to suffer as I want her to healthy. I keep motivating her and encouraging her for what she has been doing so far. However I am sure it will be of a little help, as she would still live through this hell and this puts her morale down every minute.
He is my dad and I feel a sense of pity for the life he has got right now. As Stu said, I agree so. He is my dad just by face and body, but the man I knew as my dad, played with him, laughed, cried and danced with has left us long back. My mom just takes care of this earthly body of the man who is known as her husband. I don't wish that he dies, but what we can expect is just a quick decline that he passes away without much pain and anguish for himself and us. My mom deserves to move on and live for herself.
This is the story of just one family. for dimentia awareness you should watch movie Life Flows On by Director Vishal Nityanand.
We have more to tell you about dimentia. Alzheimer's disease (AD) is the most common form of dementia among older people. Dementia is a brain disorder that seriously affects a person's ability to carry out daily activities.
AD begins slowly. It first involves the parts of the brain that control thought, memory and language. People with AD may have trouble remembering things that happened recently or names of people they know. A related problem, mild cognitive impairment (MCI), causes more memory problems than normal for people of the same age. Many, but not all, people with MCI will develop AD.
In AD, over time, symptoms get worse. People may not recognize family members. They may have trouble speaking, reading or writing. They may forget how to brush their teeth or comb their hair. Later on, they may become anxious or aggressive, or wander away from home. Eventually, they need total care. This can cause great stress for family members who must care for them.
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